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The Month I Never Let Go: A Ritual for Christmas in Exile

What’s my favorite month of the year?

It’s always Christmas.

Not December. Not winter. Not the calendar’s cold arithmetic.
Christmas is a season of soul, a constellation of memory, myth, and vow.

It reminds me of my lost home.
Of the scent of pine and cinnamon in rooms that no longer exist.
Of voices that once sang beside me, now scattered across silence.
Of a table set with love, now folded into absence.

In exile, Christmas became a ghost.
I couldn’t always experience it the way I once did.
No familiar ornaments. No shared rituals. No snow that felt like a blessing.
The songs were muted. The warmth replaced by longing.
I wandered through December like a stranger in my own story.

But I made a promise to myself.

No one would ever take Christmas away from me again.

Now, I reclaim it. I rebuild it. I ritualized it.

I light candles for the ones who are gone.
I write letters to the child I was.
I decorate my space with memory and myth.
I cook with intention, even if the table is quiet.
I sing the old songs, even if no one joins in.

Because Christmas is not just a holiday.
It’s a sanctuary. A ceremony. A refusal to forget.

It’s the month I never let go.
The ember I carry through every season.
The vow I renew each year:
To honor what was.
To transform what is.
To never let exile steal my rituals again.

So when the world asks me what my favorite month is, I say:

It’s always Christmas.

Even in July.
Even in grief.
Even in silence.

Because Christmas lives in me now.
And I will never let it be taken again.